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by Lisa Zahran (in collaboration with Team AYEINA)

No doubt, having children is one of the greatest blessings in one’s life. But great blessings come with great responsibilities.

Narrated ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock…a man is a shepherd in charge of the inhabitants of his household and he is responsible for his flock; a woman is a shepherdess in charge of her husband’s house and children and she is responsible for them…So each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.” [Sunan Abi Dawud]

Allah has entrusted the parents with the obligation of upbringing their children according to Qur’an and Sunnah. Our children are an amaanah of Allah and we’ll be asked about them in the hereafter. Therefore, parents must make an exceptional effort to guide their children to the right path. 

We put great emphasis on following a proper school routine for our kids. But, we often neglect the Islamic routine for them. Raising your child to be not only a good human being but a better practicing Muslim as well, seems like a daunting challenge indeed. So we have discussed below some practical tips to help you in raising your kids with Islamic values in shaa Allah. 


1. Be a good role model:

Kids learn everything by imitating adults. So instead of preaching through words alone, you should be practicing however you want your children to act. Set an example for them to follow.

Nobody else’s example is as effective as yours. When they are young, you are their only role model. So make yourself a person who reminds them of Allah. The one with sabran jameela.

‘Abdullah reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said. “The believer is neither a defamer nor a curser nor outrageous nor obscene.”

Teach them to recite Qur’an by reciting it to them yourself, and read out loud short Surahs and duas to them, which they can memorize. Take them with you to mosques, attend the halaqaas with them, and give charity in front of them (to encourage them to do the same). Be kind and obedient to your parents to set an example in front of them. Encourage them to be honest, grateful, and hard-working. Show them the virtues of good deeds by your own example.

Isn’t it amazing how children can help you become a MUCH better human being…Alhamdulillah!

2. Make Dua for them:

Besides fulfilling your duty as a parent, make as much dua as you can, because sometimes practicing Muslims can have kids that are non-practising and vice versa. So seek help from Allah that they can be successful in both this life and the hereafter. Feel free to print out dua for the protection of children (from evil eye, satan and all things harmful).


3. Start early with the basic teachings:

Young children are extremely malleable. You can shape them the best way when you start sooner than later. With time, the roots grow strong, and instilling life-long habits may become really hard.

Start praying salah with your kids before they turn 7. Make it a part of life, like eating, drinking, and sleeping. It will help them get into the habit of it in shaa Allah. And as meditation is highly recommended by psychologists nowadays, prayer can be a great way to connect children with their inner-self and help them stay more peaceful and calm as a result.  

“A University of California, Los Angeles study found second- and third-graders who practiced “mindful” meditation techniques for 30 minutes twice a week for eight weeks had improved behavior and scored higher on tests requiring memory, attention, and focus than the nonmeditators.” (abc news)

And what better meditation there is than the salaah. Kids already love following you when you are praying, so might as well include them as an active part of it. Although, make sure not to instruct them all the time. Instead, teach them through practicality.

As Hisham Al Awadi states: “Pure orders and instructions –without first convincing or persuading- turn the child into a machine rather than a thinking being. This is dangerous, especially when he grows up and obeys or blindly emulates any form of authority regardless of its values.”

If you haven’t listened to Hisham Al Awadi’s series “Children around the Prophet“, then we highly recommend you do. It will help you understand the masnoon dealings with the children.


4. Have fun with them & respect them as individuals:

Respect your children. Don’t humiliate them or insult them (especially in public). Using sarcasm or making fun of a child is unacceptable behavior in Islam.

“…do not insult one another and do not call each other by nicknames…” [Qur’an 49:11]

Involve them in useful activities around the home and seek their opinions on important matters. It will help them feel responsible and independent. 

Islam does not stop us from having fun. Plan fun activities with your kids such as picnics, camping, and hiking trips. Take part in Islamic celebrations and festivals. Teach them swimming etc. Enroll them in healthy extracurricular activities so that they can spend their time constructively rather than wasting it in front of TVs. Even cartoons nowadays have a lot of violence, music, and explicit content in them which is not suitable for children at all. 

MUSIC-FREE Islamic cartoons for kids

If you’re looking for an alternative – Halal educational visual entertainment, then the following are some Islamic animated content for kids (there are many educational (even Islamic) cartoons for kids but most of them contain a lot of music – hence the following are only MUSIC-FREE Islamic cartoons for kids):

1: Muslim Kids TV (A monthly subscription streaming service (“Netflix for Muslim Kids”) including several Islamic Programs like: Scrapbook Island, Once Upon a Time, Learn Arabic with ousratouna, Madrassah tv, Activ8, Quran4Kids, Misri bunch, The prophets of Islam, 5 pillars of Islam, The Muslims, Know the creation, etc. (all of the programs mentioned are music-free).

You can enjoy a 14-day free trial to access all the content without the intrusive ads that may be inappropriate for kids. After the free trial, you can apply the code AYEINA for 20% discount 🎁

2: One4kids(Zaky (the famous teddy bear) – they have recently launched their TV – a monthly subscription streaming service as well – which is way better than YouTube as it contains so many ads and unnecessary recommendations around the actual content).

3: Ali and Sumaya 

4: The Little Muslim (great for teaching basic Arabic to kids or even learning it yourself – The channel has English/French versions as well).

5: Productive Muslim (they are not exactly children’s cartoons, BUT kids can love their simplicity nonetheless).

6: FreeQuranEducation (again, not exactly children’s cartoons but they are animated lectures (of Ust.Nouman Ali Khan) which can appeal to elder kids).

There are General programs as well that you can use for educating children, like:

7: Yusuf Estes’ Story of the Prophet series

8: Hurray for Baba Ali

For Arabic ones, We formed a Pinterest board (Arabic Cartoons for Kids (Without Music)) (which we will keep updating in shaa Allah) instead of a YouTube playlist because YouTube keeps showing irrelevant ads in between and weird suggestions around. Sometimes, totally inappropriate. 

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P.S. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that children should watch no more than two hours of TV per day after two years of age, and none before that age.

5. Connect them to Allah with love:

Making your kids learn Quran and Salah is the easier part. The challenging part is teaching them the right values so that they turn out to be good human beings in the future. Never force your children to follow Islamic teaching by putting fear in their hearts. Don’t use Allah as a scare tactic. Although fear is important as well at a young age, it may be hard for kids to understand that concept. 

Instead, tell them that Allah loves them way more than you (as a parent) do. And when they see nothing but love from you, the awe of Allah’s love will ascend without any push or force. 

Always connect before you correct! Focus on wrong behavior than branding the child wrong altogether.  Instead of saying you are a liar, tell them that lying is wrong. The act of lying is displeasing to Allah. Tell them what they did wrong, why it’s wrong, and how to right that wrong. Give them replacements. 

‘A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that there came a few desert Arabs to Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) and said: Do you kiss your children? He said: Yes. Thereupon they said: By Allah but we do not kiss our children. Thereupon Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: Then what can I do if Allah has deprived you of mercy? Ibn Numair said: (He has deprived) your heart of mercy. [Muslim]

“The notion that harsh discipline is without consequence, once there is a strong parent-child bond–that the adolescent will understand that ‘they’re doing this because they love me’–is misguided because parents’ warmth didn’t lessen the effects of harsh verbal discipline. Indeed, harsh verbal discipline appears to be detrimental in all circumstances.” (PSY blog)

So when you feel angry (which is very natural), follow THESE steps.

6. Prioritize their Islamic Education:

Apart from being a role model yourself by trying to practice Islam as much as possible, make sure you provide Islam to children in different forms – righteous company, reading material about the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) and his Companions (Sahaba) etc. Otherwise, they’ll make celebrities their role models.

Friends can have a strong influence on one’s personality. So try hanging around pious mates yourself and their friends will eventually be from that company too. Show interest in what they do – their hobbies, interests, friends, education, etc. So you can understand what approach to take in their spiritual growth as all kids are different individuals with different God-given talents and nature.

Every day, take out some time for reading the translation of the Qur’an, stories of the Prophets, lives of the Sahaabah, and Islamic storybooks so that they understand their religion better. Read out to them yourself. Your own knowledge will have a significant impact as well. You can go through a list of Islamic Bookstores around the world to see what kind of educational material will work best for your child!

7. Communicate with them on a personal level:

Your child should feel comfortable enough to come and speak with you. It’s not enough to show them by giving them things, keeping them safe, or feeding them. Children require acknowledgment through words just like we like love expressed through words as well. Invite them to sit and share their stories about school, passions, dreams, and so on. 

Remember, how Yusuf (as) came to his father narrating his dream and how Ya’qoob (as) advised him accordingly.

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “When a man loves his brother (for Allah’s sake) let him tell him that he loves him”. [At- Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud].

8. Spend time with your children:

Simplest yet most effective of all – spend quality time with them. According to Harvard psychologists, one of the secrets to raising a good kid is by spending time with them. Spending time with your children means putting everything down, reading a book, playing sports with them, hiking, or just playing an old-fashioned hide and seek. In simplest terms, it means that you interact with your kid person-to-person. They will forget what you bought them but they will remember such things.

You can’t instill values in your children if you aren’t there for them. Alter your work schedule to be with them as much as possible.

Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “He is not one of us who shows no mercy to younger ones and does not acknowledge the honor due to our elders”. [At- Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud].

9. Don’t play the comparison game & be just:

Try not to compare your children with anyone, including their siblings. Comparing can create jealousy and may put the child in an aggressive defensive mode. Plus, their self-esteem goes down to the point where they may not even want to compete in a healthy way and simply give up trying to meet the expectations. Give them the ideals of course, but comparison not only eats away their confidence but also keeps you stressed out. 

Always remember that Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) never changed Abu Bakr (RA) into Umar (RA) or vice versa. Both had different natures. But Prophet (ﷺ) simply directed them both where needed instead of boxing them into one standard of acceptable good Muslim. 

Narrated ‘Amir: I heard An-Nu`man bin Bashir on the pulpit saying, “My father gave me a gift but `Amra bint Rawaha (my mother) said that she would not agree to it unless he made Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as a witness to it. So, my father went to Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) and said, ‘I have given a gift to my son from `Amra bint Rawaha, but she ordered me to make you as a witness to it, O Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ)!’ Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) asked, ‘Have you given (the like of it) to every one of your sons?’ He replied in the negative. Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, ‘Be afraid of Allah, and be just to your children.‘ My father then returned and took back his gift.” [Bukhari]

10. Teach them to see the bigger picture & show gratitude: 

Expose them to those who aren’t in the same social class. Let them welcome diversity. Allow them to witness how fortunate they are to have what they have at home. Teach your child to be a good listener, to be empathetic to others outside of their family, and not judge anyone based on their religion, race or language. Exposing your child to different cultures helps develop a loving, kind, and happy person.

Studies show that people who engage in the habit of expressing gratitude are more likely to be helpful, generous, compassionate, and forgiving–and they’re also more likely to be happy and healthy. (via powerofpositivity)

Start gratitude with yourself first. Be grateful to your children. At times, showing gratitude towards your children may be hard as you may feel entitled to them and think that you have done way more than what they are doing for you. But know that whatever you did for them will be rewarded by Allah and being grateful has nothing to do with spoiling them. You are giving them dua by saying Jazakillah khair (for a girl), JazakAllah khair (for a boy) or Jazakumullah khair (for multiple children) – (meaning: may Allah reward you with khair (good)). This will not only keep you happy but also encourage them to do more good in shaa Allah.

If you’d like to practice gratitude with your children – to help them be grateful for little things in life, then you can use THIS GRATITUDE JOURNAL with them – only one of a kind in the Muslim world. Alhamdulillah.

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Co-Author’s Bio: Lisa Zahran is a writer and copywriter who has worked with New York Times bestselling authors and personal development organizations such as Productive Muslim and Mindvalley. As CCO at Quran Academy, she’s authored a transformative ebook that can help make Quran memorization easier and more meaningful in your daily life. Experience this ebook plus a 14-day trial of Quran Companion for free today.


  1. Masha Allah well written post!! I loved each and every point. Spending time with kids, showing them our love,respect,honour, teaching Islam at the primary level. Insha Allah may He bless us to make our children the best of mankind.

  2. So very apt for me now alhamdulilah my baby just turned one and I am slowly trying to incorporate duas into our daily lives.
    So true about the fact children make us better human beings. I try to better myself because baby is super observant and is grasping my every action and word. SubhanaAllah
    May Allah bless us to raise our children in the best possible manner, khair for themselves, for us and for society as a whole.

    • Isn’t it amazing how kids help us better ourselves as well? Because they see us as role models so we feel the duty to show them what we want them to be…May Allah make your baby sadaqah jaariyah for you ❤

  3. Perfect guide to Islamic parenting. I pity some parents who are too busy teaching their kids the British accent rather than teaching them a bit about their creator and our beloved Prophet(pbuh).
    Masha Allah beautiful post!

    • Maybe teach them Islam and british accent? Lol. I mean every language has an accent and there’s nothing wrong in learning one. We simply need to prioritise What’s primary and what’s secondary…
      Islam is the pillar upon which buildings of education should be placed. Because when the roots are strong, rest will follow! In shaa Allah!

    • true. Knowledge of Islamic Finance is crucial to earn a halal income. Islamic online university has a great online course on this topic! Educated parents = educated children!

  4. MashaAllah such a lovely article! This is so helpful.

    With regard to the islamic cartoons or appropriate cartoons for children, my daughter loves watching Omar & Hana, a malaysian-islamic cartoon for kids. it’s more of islamic songs for young children. They will have it in Malay and Arabic and will be available in English soon!

    This is Omar & Hana’s website: https://www.omarhana.com/

    Have a blessed Ramadan!

  5. Jazakillah khair sofiya. The list in this article is that of music free cartoons hence couldn’t include omar and hana. But I checked out their website and included their free Ramadan printable in another blogpost (about involving kids in ramadan spirit). Thanks to you ❤


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