Alhamdulillah for a better self control that Ramadan had to offer.
I say better self control because Ramadan didn’t magically change us but it did give us immense amount of opportunities.
I know, when Shawwal came, we thought everything will automatically stay the same. We’ll still run for hasanaat and we’ll stay the people we always wanted to be…We won’t shout at our kids, we won’t delay our salah…and the list was longer in our minds than we would have expected.
But here we are…exactly the same we were before Ramadan. Feeling disconnected…beneath the debris of our own souls…taking two steps back each time we take one step forward…
You’re not alone!
You and I – We let our enemy impact us as soon as he’s released…
We have to keep swimming without the expectation of Ramadan vibes miraculously changing us or the things around us. It CAN happen of course, but most of us are already waiting for the next Ramadan for that miracle!
If it’s ONE Qur’anic dua and ONE masnoon dua you have to focus on in this scenario – make it these: (these are simply my personal fav. duas)
1) Qur’anic dua:
رَّبِّ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ هَمَزَاتِ الشَّيَاطِينِ
وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ رَبِّ أَن يَحْضُرُونِ“My Lord, I seek refuge in You from the incitements of the devils, And I seek refuge in You, my Lord , lest they be present with me.” [Quran 23:97-98]
2) Masnoon dua:
اللَّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجُو فَلاَ تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ
وَأَصْلِحْ لِي شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَThe Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: The supplications to be used by one who is distressed are: “O Allah! Thy mercy is what I hope for. Do not abandon me to myself for an instant, but put all my affairs in good order for me. There is no god but Thou.” [Abu Dawud]
Do not abandon me to myself for an instant – not even for a second – not even amidst a blink of an eye!
Because I’m a hazard to myself with or without the shaitaan.
Ya Allah! Just don’t leave me to myself…Because I can’t do this alone…Not if you leave me to my nafs or shaitaan even for an instant…
With Ramadan being over, we miss so many things that the blessed month had to offer, things like better self control, shaitaan being locked up, awaiting the Maghrib Adhaan, never missing Fajr because you’d wake up for suhoor, fasting and of course DATES!
Keep your stash of dates filled up even when this blessed month is over because dates are filled with vitamins, minerals and nutrients.
“It is a fulfilling fruit which is why it’s best to eat it in the morning when you have an empty stomach as it will fill you up and give you all the nutrients you need. This is the reason Muslims break their fast during Ramadan with dates as it helps their hunger, low blood pressure and headaches etc. It is also a sunnah to break your fast with dates.” (Rahat Anwar)
As mentioned in the hadith:
“The Messenger of Allah would break the fast with fresh dates before performing Salat. If there were no fresh dates then (he would break the fast) with dried dates, and if there were no dried dates then he would take a few sips of water.” [Tirmidhi]
All of the Ramadan things don’t have to end with Ramadan.
Shawwal is that time of the year when we bring the food close to our mouth and stop for a second or two to think if we’re fasting. We may even spit it out after chomping it half because we think that it’s still Ramadan. Then we realize that it’s Shawwal, so we give shaitaan, a welcome back party by cranking up the music that we perhaps gave up during Ramadan. Everything pre-Ramadan is back in our life because we can now blame it all on Shaitaan (devil). An easy way out.
I know, living the Ramadan spirit beyond those 29 or 30 days is difficult.
Which is why Allah’s messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم) gave us just the right ingredients to keep that Ramadan spirit cooking. That is, Fasting six days in Shawwal.
Based on the hadith:
مَنْ صَامَ رَمَضَانَ ثُمَّ أَتْبَعَهُ سِتًّا مِنْ شَوَّالٍ كَانَ كَصِيَامِ الدَّهْرِ
“Whoever fasts Ramadan then follows it with six days of Shawwal, it is as if he fasted for a lifetime.” [Muslim]
جس نے رمضان کے روزے رکھے اور اس کے بعد چھ روزے شوال کے رکھے تو گویا اس نے پورے سال کے روزے رکھے
Mentioning such huge reward is to basically keep us motivated.
Have you ever noticed how supererogatory acts (nafl) have more rewards mentioned than the rewards of obligatory acts (fard)? Maybe because most of us fulfill our obligations anyway. So positive reinforcement helps us to push ourselves just a little bit more…