By Maimoona Iftikhar
Life on this planet is an array of complex relationships and associated emotions. Parents, siblings, uncles, aunts, friends, teachers and the list endlessly goes on …
People all around us can be broadly classified into two main categories – Good and bad. As simple as that.
If you are good, you act sincerely towards each relationship no matter how much pain that causes you and if you are not, you exploit them all till the limit of inhumanity and heartlessness.
Yup, that’s exactly how it works!
Good people drive themselves crazy and work hard to fulfill their duties towards everyone. Money, time, energy, desire, ego are just a few of the sacrifices they make in the process.
A mother goes berserk over how to keep her child happy: feeding him with his favourite meals, giving him to wear what he loves the most, almost kills herself to give him a life.
There’s an Arabic proverb:
“Every container gives out what it contains.”
But despite the mother putting so much love and care into her child’s heart, what do you usually see when he grows up? Tantrums, disobedience and selfishness – forgetting each sacrifice she made for him.
Imagine the state of an old mother at that time … Heartbroken and shattered seeing all her life’s hard work going into the drain. Though she fulfilled her duty, why does she feel what she does?
Because she expected! That became her sin. A grave sin.
Expectations in life drive you nowhere. They’ll give you sadness, gloom, hurt and tears. A regret that you wasted your life after people who don’t care. You expect, and you’ll be broken.
Malaise erases off which is replaced by a number of health problems rooted to depression. It becomes a silent poison whose factory was your very own heart.
We say that love with itself brings expectations. But who are we loving? An imperfect man. Built to make mistakes. He can’t fulfill his own set goals, and we expect him to comply to our goals. Funny, isn’t it?
So love the Perfect ONE. Expect from Him. He controls the whole world. And His word is what truth looks like. You ask, and He gives. You trip, and He sets you right. You fall, and He picks you up. You are lost, and He guides you. You deny Him, and He still provides you. You cry, and He consoles you. You are dubious, and He fixes your heart. He returns each act of yours with goodness. Always. Forever.
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “My Lord says, ‘If My slave comes nearer to me for a span, I go nearer to him for a cubit; and if he comes nearer to Me for a cubit, I go nearer to him for the span of outstretched arms; and if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running.’ ” [Bukhari]
That’s the right source to expect from! And when you realise this reality, this hidden secret of life – You suddenly are at peace. Everything seems to be fine because you never expected and so what you get seems sufficiently suffice. Life melts down to ease and comfort. Nothing really hurts then. What duties you fulfill are for God alone, you don’t expect its return from people here because you expect a reward from Him in the Hereafter.
That’s the only way to put your turmoiled heart to tranquil. Pacify it. Free it from all bounds. And that’s the ultimate reality…