Love Yourself the Halal Way – Self Love for Mamas Parenting

Repeat after me:

I’m not calculated by the weighing scale

I am not my skin shade

I can’t be measured with an inches tape

I am not the money I make


My worth is not in the number of likes

My value is not in the praises I get

I am so much more and beyond

Within servitude of Allah, my rank is set

The obstacles in my life make me stop and think. I’m not worth what I’m told. I’m not worth the way I’m dealt…. I’m worth so much more! I am a servant! A servant of The Greatest! A servant of Who created me in the best of stature. 

Loving yourself outside worldly measurements in a day of social media where each move and each sight is constantly gauged, is HARD. You can’t fully love yourself when there’s always a definition of perfection out there that doesn’t match you or your life. Hence, it’s a constant fight you are in – within. 

As a mother, this hits you the most. Because you tend to completely neglect yourself most of the times. Emotionally and physically. Putting everyone above but yourself. Prioritizing everyone and everything but yourself.

But they say it right! You can’t fill a glass from an empty vessel. 

So treat yo’self. Go to the spa. Take out time for yourself. If that isn’t an option for you, then open spa in a box at home. But put yourself forward. 

muslim women box, art print, organic cream, handmade soap, sisters magazine, ayeina, samina farooq

This Halal Goodies box (filled with natural products) is your spa in a box each month. It’s the physical version of the phrase: TREAT YO’SELF!

It came as a reminder at the right time. Your body has a right on you! Usually, you ignore buying such things because you think you are too busy to use them but receiving the box made me realize that I need to take out moments from my day to use them. Finding time won’t ever work. The time is NOW.

The box targets all of your senses. The sense of sight (with an art print designed by us and not to mention the beautiful packaging), the sense of smell (with an aromatic candle (and literally everything)), the sense of taste (with a yummy chocolate) and the sense of touch (with everything from handmade soaps to body butter, from cleanser to organic creams, from hair/hand wash to a lip balm).

It’s also accompanied by a SISTERS magazine for an iman-boost (to work on your inner beauty) and a beautiful reminder from the Qur’an:

“We have certainly created man in the best of stature.” [95:4]

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The description says:

“With society fitting you into a single standard of beauty, we want you to feel loved no matter how you’re created because you’re a creation of the Perfect One. You’re worth so much more than what meets the eye. You’re a flower that blooms. You’re a beauty that progresses through nurturing. You’re you and that is what’s beautiful about you, and our art is a reflection of that.”

Loving yourself or taking care of yourself does not translate as narcissism. It means taking care of the amaanah Allah gave you. Your body never leaves you alone. Yet you are guilty of all the ways you abandon it. 

You are Allah’s amaanah. So take care of your soul, but also take care of the container where this soul resides.  

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Loving yourself also does not mean not loving others. Care deeply for others. Give generously to others. Love wholeheartedly. But don’t ever lose yourself in that path. Because you matter too. Your needs matter. Your wishes matter. Your emotions matter and your soul matters too.

You will know that keeping yourself happy will make you a much better human being inshaaAllah.

Empathy is often mistaken for a path where you don’t know where you end and the other begins. Empathize with everyone but also sympathise with yourself. 

It takes the strongest muscle in your body to show such love. But like all muscles, the more you’ll use it, the stronger it will get inshaaAllah.

Update: For those who couldnt find the link embedded in the pictures, can follow this link for more details on Halal Goodies box 🙂

Note: We were sent the box from Halal Goodies but that doesn’t affect our honest opinion. Kindly see our disclosure policy.

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samINA (the second half of ayeINA) – a mum of one, currently studying Intensive Arabic Program from Islamic Online University with a previous degree of Electronic Engineering and Ta’leem ul Qur’an. She’s a writer by heart, photographer by eye, an artist by nature and a Muslim by soul.


  1. Rozeena Says: June 6, 2016 at 12:52 am

    Love this reminder! X

  2. Very beautifully written! I loved the first poem. I didn’t think it would speaking about spa treatment. I was hoping for article on TAQWA. This makes one truly beautiful.

    Never the less, there is nothing wrong with a SPA treatment. Such a gift would certainly make me happy!

    • Hehe it IS. Taqwa is not in ragged clothes and taqwa is not in ignoring your bodily needs.
      As mentioned in the hadith:
      “…If Allah has given you wealth, then let the effect of Allah’s blessing and generosity be seen on you…”

      Of course this doesn’t mean everyone go out and take these things but personally as a mother, I keep ignoring myself for so long, putting everyone’s needs above me, that I forget to take care of myself. So this feels good but also reminding myself that this is not what all there is. Taqwa matters the most and taking care of yourself is not outside that definition 🙂 alhamdulillah.

  3. Beautiful post 🙂 lol the poem was cute now you make me want to go get pampered!! ( and

  4. This is something I would buy. I love natural products especially soaps. Whenever I go anywhere I always head for the natural soaps. (Ask my family, I spend way too much on it!) My cabinet is full of natural soaps from around the courtry (and world). If ever I get to the UK, I’ll look you up insha Allah.

  5. And this is what I call guilt-free pampering. For those weekends after a hectic work week, or exams period or stress from challenges in life. Our body is indeed an amanah.

    The halaal goodies box is a beautiful way to nurture self love. Brilliant that it stimulates all senses. Baarakallahu fin!

  6. It definitely is so important to take care of yourself. As a mother it is so easy to put everyones needs first….I was getting so low and realised that I was not making any time for myself…so got out and started going to exercise classes…pampering yourself is definitely something everyone needs to do

  7. This is a fantastic reminder…as a first time mother, I forget so often to even eat my breakfast. so thank you for this 🙂

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