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Duas That Helped Me As A Parent (9-16)
17) Dua for farewells
أَسْتَوْدِعُكَ اللَّهَ الَّذِي لاَ تَضِيعُ وَدَائِعُهُ
It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) gave me a send-off and said: ‘I command you to Allah’s keeping, Whose trust is never lost.’”[Sunan Ibn Majah 2825]
As @abubakrzoud said in his post: “In a world full of uncertainty, fear, and loss, there’s a beautiful prophetic habit that can transform your mindset and bring peace to your heart…
Say it:
1- For your children when dropping them off at school.
2- To your spouse before they leave for work.
3- To your parents when you part from them.
4- When sending a friend off on a journey.
5- When worried about losing something valuable or someone dear.
Because the Prophet taught us what you place in Allah’s care will never be lost…This is not just a Dua, It’s a mindset of trust, a heart at peace and a great Sunnah to revive.”
18) Dua for steadfastness in prayers
رَبِّ ٱجْعَلْنِى مُقِيمَ ٱلصَّلَوٰةِ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِى ۚ رَبَّنَا وَتَقَبَّلْ دُعَآءِ
“My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and from my descendants. Our Lord, and accept my supplication.”
My 10yr old now regularly prays without reminders alhamdulillah. And this dua was a huge part of it!
I didn’t expect to start with Fajr when she was 7, but it was just the right time as I had my 3rd baby and my eldest really wanted to connect with me on a one-on-one basis. With 3 kids, there was no other time during the day when we could connect one-on-one. And that’s how she fell in love with the Fajr time. It was our only exclusive mother-daughter time. They say – to love the message, you have to love the Messenger. For kids, their first love is their mother. If they get to connect with her and love her, in shaa Allah they will also love the message she teaches/follows – till they are at a point where their love for the actual Messenger (ﷺ) is stronger than the love of their mother. And I pray they reach that point too by the time they are accountable for their deeds.
19) Dua for a good reward
جزاك الله خيرًا
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “He who is favoured by another and says to his benefactor: `Jazak-Allah khairan (may Allah reward you well)’ indeed praised (the benefactor) satisfactorily.” [Riyad as-Salihin 1496]
It may seem like a very simple dua, but it holds so much khair! I say “jazakAllah khair” to my kids a LOT (even when they give me a kiss or a hug). Although we may think that they “should” be doing all those things, but gratitude is about going beyond that mindset of what others SHOULD do. It comes beyond that sense of entitlement. So I’d say whichever relationship you’d like to work on (spouse, parents, kids etc.), start with gratitude! Appreciate whatever good you see and it will come back to you manifolds! My then-1yr old used to say “jazaakay” whenever she was given something (and also when she was giving something to someone lol). I now see my 4yr old saying “jazakAllah khair” for every meal prepared too. I also remember filling a gratitude Journal “Alhamdulillah For Series” for my kids with all the things that made me appreciate them and motherhood in general (and that made the journey of parenting a lot easier! alhamdulillah). Gratitude mixed with a dua is the best medicine!
20) Dua for Allah-pleasing over people-pleasing
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْهُدَى وَالتُّقَى وَالْعَفَافَ وَالْغِنَى
Prophet (ﷺ) used to supplicate: “O Allah, indeed, I ask You for guidance, piety, chastity, and sufficiency (Allāhumma innī as’alukal-hudā wat-tuqā, wal-`afāfa wal-ghinā).” [Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3489]
Self-sufficiency is being free from constant need for people’s validation! The obsession with being the good child may have helped us survive our childhood, but it’s detrimental in our adulthood because we start to put people-pleasing over Allah-pleasing in our blanket of kindness. As children, we were only accepted when we were at our best behaviour. And hence we couldn’t let that good-child award go. Most of us are still recovering in most cases, to be honest…
A lot of people-pleasing comes from fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of abandonment. Fear of conflict. Etc. Having true khashiyyah (taqwa) of Allah is the actual source of barakah! *LILLAAH* is the reminder that helps me remember why I do what I do – especially when it comes to motherhood…Not for “what will the people say”, but “what Allah may ask me in aakhirah!”. May Allah grant us self-sufficiency of the mind too – so we can stop chasing people’s validation and pleasure over Allah!
21) Dua for ‘Aafiyah
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ العَافِيَةَ – “O Allah, I ask You for strength.“
Mu`adh bin Jabal narrated that the Prophet (ﷺ) heard a man supplicating, saying: “O Allah! Verily, I ask You for the bounty’s completion (Allāhumma, innī as’aluka tamāman-ni`mah).” So he (ﷺ) said: “What thing is the bounty’s completion?” He said: “A supplication that I made, that I hope for good by it.” He (ﷺ) said: “Indeed, part of the bounty’s completion is the entrance into Paradise, and salvation from the Fire.” And he (ﷺ) heard a man while he was saying: “O Possessor of Majesty and Honor (Yā Dhal-Jalāli wal-Ikrām)” So he (ﷺ) said: “You have been responded to, so ask.” And the Prophet (ﷺ) heard a man while he was saying: “O Allah, indeed, I ask You for patience (Allāhumma, innī as’alukaṣ-ṣabr)” He (ﷺ) said: “You have asked Allah for trial, so ask him for Al-`Āfiyah.” [Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3527]
Aafiyah means to be protected, kept safe, and granted well-being in every aspect of life. In Physical well-being – It is asking Allah for a life where your body is not burdened with pain, sickness, or weakness, Emotional well-being – It is asking Allah to protect your inner world just as much as your outer world, Spiritual well-being – It is asking Allah to keep your iman strong, your heart pure, and your path straight. Asking for ‘Aafiyah is asking Allah to save you from difficulties that would break you – to give you strength and ease in whatever test He decrees.
It is a dua that wraps you and your loved ones in Allah’s protection. ‘Aafiyah gathers every good in this life and the next. In Simple Words…When you ask for ‘Aafiyah, you are asking Allah to shield you from anything that harms your body, heart, soul, family, or future in the Hereafter. It’s such a short and simple dua that can be repeated in any moment of stress and overwhelm!
22) Dua for parents (for the hardships they go through when kids are small)
رَّبِّ ٱرْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرًۭا
“…My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.” [Quran; 17:24]
After bath time, brushing, and all the little nighttime tasks, the kids dust their beds. Once everyone is tucked in and has taken their turn reciting the bedtime sunan, we make dua for our parents and our kids make dua for us. My eldest and I took the challenge of memorising these aayaat (17:23-24) after getting inspired from her AMAU mentorship program. The Salaf used to make this dua after each Salah, and we as parents should teach it to our children too. That’s why I included this dua in our bedtime routine. It feels so good to hear it from your kids. My mum had tears in her eyes when my then-5yr old told her that this dua is part of our nightly routine. I wonder how much joy a deceased parent would feel when their child makes dua for them in this dunya, raising their ranks in Aakhirah! So get yourself and your kids into the habit of making this dua, so our kids will remember to make this dua when we will need it the most… after we leave this world.
23) Dua for refuge from Shaitan
أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ
Mu`adh bin Jabal narrated : that one of the two men cursed the other next to the Prophet (ﷺ), until anger could be recognized in the face of one of them. So the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Verily, I know a statement, that if he were to say it, his anger would leave: ‘I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan, the rejected (A`ūdhu billāhi minash-shaiṭānir-rajīm).’” [Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3452]
Angry kids need our rahma! And rahma includes boundaries too. But when the child is drowning, we can not teach swimming lessons! We help them stay afloat! Swimming lessons are for later as a preventative measure. So save your “strong is the believer who controls his anger” lectures in the middle of an explosive episode. Those lessons were for before the anger erupted! Staring an angry child in shock or ignoring them altogether to not address it in any way is also not the way to help a child! Rahma (mercy) is strength with boundaries. Kids need a reliable leader who is not afraid of their emotions – who can co-regulate with them while they’re in the middle of a storm. The Prophet ﷺ didn’t shame the young. He guided them back gently. Let kids repeat “aoodhubillah” after you. and let your kids remind you as well when you become angry! Let the kids see themselves in a good light by giving them responsibilities and helping them take accountability – because self-worth helps us handle shame that sometimes leads to more anger…
24) Dua for accepted effort
رَبَّنَا تَقَبَّلْ مِنَّآ
“…My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.” [Quran; 2:127]
As @abubakrzoud said in his post: “A Message to Every Hardworking Mother & Father This Ramadan.
A man passed by the Prophet ﷺ, and the companions noticed his strength and energy (he was doing hard, physical work). They said, “O Messenger of Allah, if only he were in the path of Allah!” (i.e., if only he put this effort into fighting for the cause of Allah).
The Prophet ﷺ replied: “If he went out striving to provide for his young children, he is in the path of Allah. If he went out striving to support his elderly parents, he is in the path of Allah. If he went out striving to sustain himself and remain chaste, he is in the path of Allah.But if he went out for showing off and boasting, then he is in the path of Shaytan.” (Sahih al- Targhib: 1692, authenticed by Al-Albani).
Dear mother, as you wake up before Fajr to prepare suhoor, as you cook iftar while fasting, as you juggle family responsibilities, work, and worship, know that your effort is in the path of Allah. Your sacrifice, patience, and love are all forms of worship, and Allah sees every moment of your struggle.
This Ramadan, don’t underestimate your efforts. Every meal you prepare, every dua you make for your children, every hardship you endure, is rewarded by Allah. Your work is not just Dunya related, it is a path to Jannah.”
May Allah accept each and every effort from us – whether it’s within Ramadan or outside of it!
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