By Christal Joan (in collaboration with Team AYEINA)

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We are trained to think that failure is the end of the road. Once a failure has occurred it’s often our first response to hang the balloons and banners for our very own pity parties. However, failure isn’t as bad as you think.

What is failure?

Failure can be described as the lack of success or the omission of an expected or required outcome. In layman’s terms, failure means you didn’t achieve what you expected. It’s a tough pill to swallow. When you expect so much from yourself, from a project or even a person and then the bubble is burst. But failure is an experience that we must all go through, it really depends on your perspective. We struggle with failure because inherently we struggle with hardship. We know it’s an inevitable part of being in the duniya but we still find it difficult to deal with.

Perspective shift

Allah has told us this but at the same time in his infinite mercy, He promised to also give us ease.


“For indeed, with hardship ease. Indeed, with hardship ease.” [Qur’an, 94:5-6]


Allah assures us that we will go through hardships in the above verse. But, He also assures us that with hardship there is ease, TWICE. Within His infinite mercy Allah has made it clear that yes times will get tough, you will face hardships and there will be failures but ease is always on its way two-fold. If we analyse this ayat in two parts, we’ll see that Allah is trying to show us how to shift our own perspectives on hardships and the subsequent failures that may occur in our lives. 

How to Turn Your Failure into Success

I know we don’t often look at the lives of the Prophets (as) and think of the word failure, but their lives were filled with hardships. Each and every one of them experienced hardships relating to perceived failures but because of their mindsets, they all overcame them to reach the ultimate success. 

1) Turn to see the other side of the coin:

Failure and success are two sides of the same coin. If you’ve failed at something it’s a sign that you are striving. For the one who strives and makes an effort there’s always going to be a chance that they may fail. As long as you’re willing to try and learn from those failures to come even stronger the next time, can it really be called a failure?

Prophetic Example (Adam (عليه السلام)) – handling failure of one’s own soul as a human being:

The enmity of Satan to Prophet Adam and his progeny is very ancient, going back to the very time of creating Adam (peace be upon him). Satan deceived him and enticed him into disobeying Allah for the first time.  Adam was however a human being and man tends to forget. His heart changes and his will weakens. Iblis summoned all the envy within him and took advantage of Adam’s humanity to exploit him.  Adam (as) ate the forbidden fruit from the tree, so Allah dismissed him from Paradise. 

Dua of Adam (A.S) to Allah in repentance:

 رَبَّنَا ظَلَمْنَا أَنفُسَنَا وَإِن لَّمْ تَغْفِرْ لَنَا وَتَرْحَمْنَا لَنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الْخَاسِرِينَ

Rabbana thalamna anfusana wain lam taghfir lana watarhamna lanakoonanna mina alkhasireena

“Our Lord, we have wronged ourselves, and if You do not forgive us and have mercy upon us, we will surely be among the losers.”

Allah accepted Adam’s repentance and forgave him. He then sent him to the earth as His first messenger. Adam (as) did not wallow in his mistake and failed to move forward. He kept going with the hope and best deeds that Allah WILL forgive him. And his hope and sincere repentance were met with the forgiveness from Allah.

2) Use Failure as a Springboard to Success

Have you noticed in life there are some people that always seem to bounce back no matter what? Do you look at them and wonder, how do they do it? How do they manage to win even when they fail? It’s all a matter of mindset. Falling up is the name given to the theory that even when you fail, you can utilize that failure as a springboard to success when you change your mindset.

From an Islamic perspective, we can call this Qadr of Allah (the pre-destination of Allah’s infinite wisdom). When you truly believe in and understand that everything is in the hands of Allah, you can change your way of thinking – Those nagging negatives can be switched around into positives and learning experiences. 

“And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah – then He is sufficient for him…” [Qur’an – 65:3]

Prophetic Example (Nuh (عليه السلام)) – handling children’s failure as a parent:

We can look at the example of Nuh (as). He went through the unthinkable by today’s standards. His commuity beat him up after he came with the message of one true God. His own sons foresook him. But did that stop him from spreading the message given to him? For 900+ years? No. Did he deem it a failure when his own sons failed to accept the message he was sent with? No. He trusted in Allah swt and what he had been given and continued forward. 

3) Think of failure as a temporary state: 

Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “A strong believer is better and dearer to Allah than a weak one, and both are good. Adhere to that which is beneficial for you. Keep asking Allah for help and do not refrain from it. If you are afflicted in any way, do not say: ‘If I had taken this or that step, it would have resulted into such and such,’ but say only: ‘Allah so determined and did as He willed.’ The word ‘if’ opens the gates of satanic thoughts”. [Muslim]

Prophetic Example (Ibrahim (عليه السلام)) – handling parent’s failure as a child:

If we look at the life of Ibrahim (as) we’ll see there were MANY ups and downs. He continued inviting his father to the true path as he lived. He always asked Allah to give him guidance. However, his father did not give up worshiping idols until he died. He insisted on his wrong belief. Although he was the father of a prophet, he died as an unbeliever.

As a son who truly loved his father, this was really hard for Ibrahim (as) – so much so that he would ask for his father’s forgiveness even after his death – until Allah stopped him to do so. He tried his best and when he couldn’t get the required results, He left the decision to Allah and continued on his path…

4) Consider failure a different path to success

Your failure is just Allah’s way of showing you a different path to success. Often, we are in the mindset that there’s only one way to success. Even though we know this isn’t true it’s still a concept that we hold onto. It’s easy to blame the wrong path and not our ability to adapt to the situation we’re in. 

Prophetic Example (Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم)) – handling community’s failure as a leader:

If we look at the example of our Beloved Prophet (saw) – he was put in many difficult situations and he had to adapt in every single one of them. He was the best husband, leader, spiritual healer you name it, Rasulullah (saw) embodied it.
Take the treaty of Hudaybiyyah. It went through many revisions before the final wording was settled. What if the Messenger of Allah (saw) was not willing to compromise and see the bigger better picture and put his trust in Allah? It could have been a very different story. The Muslims at the time thought the treaty was a great error but Allah swt revealed verses to the contrary congratulating the believers and promising them much spoils in the future as stated in Surah Al Fath ayah 18-19. 

It would have been all too easy for him to give up on his people, as most of us would have done. But Prophet (saws) knew that he would have the ultimate success with Allah swt and that several failures in one thing simply meant that success was on a different path. Instead of stopping his journey altogether, he changed his path wherever it was needed. He adapted to the given circumstances. 

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ

وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ وَالْبُخْلِ وَالْجُبْنِ وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ

“The Messenger of Allah had supplications that he never omitted to recite. He used to say: ‘Allahumma inni a’udhu bika minal-hammi, wal-hazani, wal-‘ajzi, wal-kasali, wal-bukhli, wal-jubni, wa ghalabatar-rijal (O Allah, I seek refuge with You from worry, grief, incapacity, laziness, miserliness, cowardice and being overpowered by (other) men.)” [Nasa’i]

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Bio: Christal is a blogger, speaker and life coach who converted to Islam  in 2011. She is also a mother of 2 and loves reading and attending Islamic lectures in her spare time. You can find more of her writing  at christaljoan.com

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3 COMMENTS

  1. Channeling positive energy into failures and evaluating to move forward are so important! We can’t skip over failure, we must try to glean lessons and improve ourself. Jazak’Allah khair for the beneficial post!

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