10 Advices from Older Me to Younger Self (part 2) Lists

 

The previous part can be read here.

 

6. Lower your expectation but keep your hopes high

Focus on doing a few things really well than trying to do everything and disappointing your own self. This way, you will get done more in life. Everything in life is a trade-off. You give up one thing to get another. It takes a lot of sacrifice to achieve anything special in life. You can’t have it all. And don’t be ashamed to accept that.

You can’t achieve what you do not attempt. The path to wanting and having is doing.

If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never disappointed.

All of human wisdom was contained in these two words – “wait” and “hope”. Thus…

 

7. Forgive and let go

Accept the apologies you never received. If you want to let go and move on from holding onto anything hurtful, relieve them the need to apologize to you.

Your heart will be broken many times by people you trust. Life is not a straight line. But the earth is round if you learn to forgive more.

Kindness is one of the most powerful natural resources there is…infinitely renewable.

Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s almost all – small stuff. We forget all too soon the things we thought we could never forget.

When confronted with a perceived problem, ask yourself, ‘Is this going to matter in five years, ten years?’ If not, dwell on it for a few minutes, then let it go. And most importantly, forgive your own self. because…

 

8. Life continues

When they say, “This too shall pass”, advices like these are actually true. Time does heal. And ‘Believe you me’ has a lot different meaning now. I will not say who won’t be around and who will be…but know that by the end of the day you will always have God to turn to. He will stay forever. You are never alone, never have been, never will be. You will too die someday, but He won’t. Everything happens for a reason. Be the person that others can count on when it does in somebody else’s life and God will be with you in your hard times. Something you never thought you could bear is the thing you are now living through…and that too with gratitude and pleasure towards God. What He chose for you. Time lets you grow a thick skin. Your body gives up on you but your heart grows stronger with each blow.

Life can be short or long. Either way, better aim to do it right. Embrace the constant that is change and your life may never be the same. I don’t know what’s going to happen next and uncertainty is a beautiful thing. It makes you keep struggling. So you really don’t have to know what’s going to happen either. Sorrow is part of everyone’s lifetime and the consequence of an open and passionate heart. Honor that.

We rarely wake up one day and suddenly notice wild, life-altering changes in ourselves. Our identities slowly shift, like sea sand getting pushed around by the ocean, slowly accumulating into new contours and forms over the passage of time.

But sometimes life changes fast. Life changes in an instant. You sit down to dinner and life, as you know it ends. Hence…

 

9. Keep progressing

Continue to grow and develop yourself. Especially spiritually. It will help you a lot while going through the hardest phases of your life. I am emphasizing so much on this because they took God out of the schools, took Him off of money, and then eventually took him out of the language in general. The trick was to make it happen slowly.  So talking about God in this era is weird and completely strange to many. Since your way of life will not be a popular one. A very tiny minority you could say. You will be called awkward, backward and well, lots of things. But it will help you improve your life as an individual. The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to like them. If you’re right, then don’t go wrong just because others didn’t like the right. As grand as your vision was to change the world, you can’t change everything and everyone. Strive to make an impact in individuals, one person at a time, starting with those around you. but before that, starting with your own self. If you’ve made at least one person’s life better, you’ve created change.

Religion and morality are the essential pillars of civil society. It’s a good thing you are leading your soul back to God at this age. So don’t stop. Keep progressing. Put hard work into your next world and this world of yours will automatically improve. And there’s no short cut to hard work. Invest in yourself. The best investment is not real estate, bonds, mutual funds, diamonds, or gold, but it is your non-stop education and overall holistic development – intellectually, physically, and spiritually. Everything that we supposedly “own” on earth – even our very life – are just temporary. They all belong to Allaah.

Don’t be afraid of taking risks towards a right path. The biggest regret may be staying in something that you know is not right. Or something you did not do. And by the end of the day…

 

10. Everything will be all right

There is no mystery to happiness.

Don’t give up. Those who are successful in life have four things in common: focus, gratitude, persistence and patience.

Looking backward you will find a lot of foggy memories that you’ll never have access to. Things that you are currently so concerned about. Do not let anything permanently steal your smile. Things may seem to be falling apart but they will be falling together. You are capable of handling far more things than you think you can. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but you will get over it. You will get over everything you go through. You will learn to smile again by the end of the day.

Nobody can go back and start anew, but you can start today and make a new ending. All endings are also beginnings. We just don’t know it at the time.

 

To,
Younger Me

 

 

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Samina Farooq is an engineer by qualification, a Quran and Arabic-language student by occupation, a photographer by eye, a writer by heart, an artist by nature and a Muslim by soul. A mum of one is currently studying Intensive Arabic Program from Islamic Online University while also following Bayyinah institute's 'Arabic with Husna' classes, one baby step at a time.

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